There seems to be four categories of awkward people:
1. The really awkward people who are desperately trying to be normal
2. The awkward people who like it and try to be more awkward which results in seeming actually weird in a bad way
3. The awkward people who accept that this is the way it will be but try to be socially acceptable
4. People who in reality are not so awkward, yet think it's cool to brag about being awkward but in reality they don't even know the half of it
Most social awkwardness comes from anxiety of social situations and overthinking, and personally, I think I'm the third type of awkward, but I used to be the first type. This post is for the really socially awkward people.
From my experience, here are some things that happen when you're actually awkward.
1. When talking with people, you become extremely aware of your body.
And as a result you get a headache from staying in an uncomfortable position for too long because you weren't sure if it would look weird if you moved positions, and you had to really rethink about what the person was saying because you spent the entire conversation figuring out how much eye contact was necessary.
2. You trip over air on a daily basis.
And you never know how to play it off. And even when you're consciously trying to avoid tripping, you trip anyway.
3. You say things that don't make any sense to other people and you try to correct it but it keeps getting worse.
And it's usually first impressions or someone you don't know that well, which makes it awkward to try to correct yourself.
4. You had fears of ordering at Subway before or still do.
There's just too much conversation required to order the freaking sandwich. And I never hear what they asked me. Which makes them annoyed when I ask them to repeat what they said, especially if I don't hear it again.
5. You have to consciously train yourself to have a confident poise.
Because otherwise you look like you're always apologizing for your existence or you're trying to hide. In public, you're normally standing with shoulders up in a tense position, head faced downward and you are very self conscious about everything from your hair to your outfit. This results in having to retrain the way you stand, walk and speak in public.
There are so many other things that awkward people face on a daily basis. Everyone faces these things from time to time, but honestly it's how you react to the situation. Everyone's a little bit awkward. And I think awkward people like being reminded that's it's not just them.
Labels: awkward, awkward people, confident, social