So this might not be very organized, but I need to rant.
This video was posted on 9gag today and I watched it out of curiosity. I've determined that while it is a huge over-simplified idea that makes both men and women look pretty dumb, the overall idea is truthful.
The main idea of the video was to explain why men looking at other women is okay because men still love their woman. I suggest watching the video to make your own assumptions. But that's what I got from it.
Now, it might be true that most men harmlessly look at other women, but I have come to realize it goes both ways. I don't particularly just look at other men and think about having sex with them or look to see what their butts look like or anything of the sort. And a lot of other women are like this too; we like the person when when get to know them.
But I think we can play this game too. Other girls are dressing sexy to catch your man's attention. Believe me, women dress nicely for a lot of reasons, including for their significant other and to express their personal style. Women also dress to get attention. Just like what I said before in a different post, everyone cares what other people think or we would all look like slobs. Women want attention from the opposite sex, even if they are in a relationship. Just how men only look "for a second," we also want to capture "just a second" of other men's attention. I'm not saying this because I have low self esteem, as some people would counter.
All women do this. I do it. Most women would not admit it, but they dress a certain way to catch attention of the opposite sex, and sometimes even to piss off the other women.
So seriously, instead of getting angry that your man steals glances, pay attention when other guys steal glances at you. It happens, trust me.
If you don't feel confident about yourself, you will never feel secure in your relationship no matter if he looks or doesn't look at other women.
If you think you need to become healthy to help your confidence, what are you waiting for?
It might not seem like a lot, but when you get your confidence up, you tend not to care so much about little things like that. He loves you, he probably won't remember that girl you saw on the beach, and you look great too!
And if it's more than a few glances and he's ogling women or being inappropriate or treating you badly, then that's a whole other issue that has nothing to do with you. If this is the case, you need to confront him with the issues.
To be honest, if a guy is going to cheat, there is nothing you could do to prevent it. That's his problem, and you at least need to be taking care of yourself for you if it ever were to happen.
So the point of this rant.... Don't worry about him unless it's an actual problem. Worry about yourself. And if he has a problem with other guys looking at you.... Only then can you point out the other women he looked at. Because let's be real: we women are always going to care about it a little, but that's no reason to let it ruin your life.
Labels: 9gag, Beauty, cheating, Confidence, Dating, rant, self confidence